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Intention and focusing on what you want

Smarky

09-11-2004 02:22:14

Hey,

Basically to get my intentions I need not to think of that which I do not want and only which I do. But when i'm worried something might happen, or when something "bad" happens, your tired and don't have the energy inside you. How excatly is this done?

I find I can do this for a few hours before i'm knocked down, when doing this when you are knocked down the event that caused the knock down seems to have a more negative effect than it would otherwise.

how do you keep your focus on those things? Do you need to just concentrate on one thing at one time? what happens when you need a bunch of things to go right?

Ron

12-11-2004 11:52:37

"Basically to get my intentions I need not to think of that which I do not want and only which I do. But when i'm worried something might happen, or when something "bad" happens, your tired and don't have the energy inside you. How excatly is this done?"

Are you aware that when you say an intention that contains the word "not" in it, you are actually stating an intention in a positive form? The mind does not bother with the word "not". e.g "I do not want to be sick" will be in the mind as "I want to be sick." Your intentions must be stated in a positive way "I intend to be healthy and strong."

I find I can do this for a few hours before i'm knocked down, when doing this when you are knocked down the event that caused the knock down seems to have a more negative effect than it would otherwise. "

How long do you stay with an intention? How about declaring it and then letting it go? Until you let go of your intention, Universe has no way of offering it back to you. State it and let it go, and move on.

how do you keep your focus on those things? Do you need to just concentrate on one thing at one time? what happens when you need a bunch of things to go right?"

How about rather than focusing on "a bunch of things" you focus on just one at a time - perhaps your health - or your job - or your relationship - or whatever. Just allow one to be presented to you because it will change your entire life - your path will be seen differently - and then you are ready to take another step and place another intention out there. Go slow, be patient and be aware of the results.

Namaste - Ron

Smarky

14-11-2004 01:20:19

How long do you stay with an intention? How about declaring it and then letting it go? Until you let go of your intention, Universe has no way of offering it back to you. State it and let it go, and move on.

How do you let go of something? If i'm suposed to know and act like what i want is already there (because really it is) then surely letting go of that idea becomes very difficult when I'm living it?

For example if say ast the very basic level I wanted to be happy and i let go of that intention so then I just felt unhappy rather than becoming it then surely this won't work?

Smarky

14-11-2004 01:26:45

How about rather than focusing on "a bunch of things" you focus on just one at a time - perhaps your health - or your job - or your relationship - or whatever. Just allow one to be presented to you because it will change your entire life - your path will be seen differently - and then you are ready to take another step and place another intention out there. Go slow, be patient and be aware of the results.

I think maybe I need to look at those things I am trying to create in my life and find the sponsoring thought behind them rather than the actual event or thing. In this case if I could find more simple things then there won't be a huge confusion and i could simply focus on one thing. Maybe something like being successful because to me that would mean a bunch of things right now rather than going after everything separately.

Now these might end up manifesting themselves in a totally different way from that which I am looking for, but if they were and i was focusing on being successful (as an example) I'm sure I won't complain ;)

Thank you for your responses!

Ron

14-11-2004 11:53:16

"How do you let go of something? If i'm suposed to know and act like what i want is already there (because really it is) then surely letting go of that idea becomes very difficult when I'm living it?"

Okay, for me - letting go is simply knowing that my thought has been placed in the Universe and is coming back to me already - it is knowing that what I think I want, I already have but am not aware as yet - it is not focusing on any one thought, but moving on with life. As ego, you believe that to let go of anything means you no longer have it. But in the truth of who you are, you let go of a thought knowing that the thought will manifest in your life. When is not up to you, nor is how - but you know it will manifest. But nothing will happen if you hold onto it - you must let go.

"For example if say ast the very basic level I wanted to be happy and i let go of that intention so then I just felt unhappy rather than becoming it then surely this won't work?"

Did you know that happiness is a natural state for you? If you believe you feel unhappy, you are holding that thought in your mind. You can only experience the thought you think. Unhappiness is nothing more than fear, and fear is nothing more than a "gift" from ego - an illusion from an illusion. We give the illusion value and therefore fear the fear.

"I think maybe I need to look at those things I am trying to create in my life and find the sponsoring thought behind them rather than the actual event or thing. In this case if I could find more simple things then there won't be a huge confusion and i could simply focus on one thing. Maybe something like being successful because to me that would mean a bunch of things right now rather than going after everything separately."

When you truly believe that the world you see, the life you experience is totally in your mind - your thoughts make your world - you will begin to grasp that you can change your world by chaning your thoughts. Perhaps you are throwing out all these "thoughts" which are very confusing even to you. What do expect back except confusion? And when you say that successful means a bunch of things to you - you are stating confusion. Ego is guiding you as to what you believe successful is - and yet no one has ever reached success with ego - for ego will always want more - it never knows what it wants to begin with.

"Now these might end up manifesting themselves in a totally different way from that which I am looking for, but if they were and i was focusing on being successful (as an example) I'm sure I won't complain"

But you would because you do not know what success would be for you - if it simply means a lot of worldly toys and joys - then you will never reach it - and never even know you have it. And you are correct that the things you are trying to manifest - trying to experience - may indeed show up as something different - would you recognize them? If you want abundance for example, would you be successful by gaining a lot of weight?

Many years ago, a teacher of mine told me to "delete" certain thoughts that I did not want to manifest in my life - so I simply say "delete, delete" when I become aware of such thought. And this is a key here - do you pause to consider the thought you are holding? Is this what you truly want to happen in your life?

Namaste - Ron

Smarky

14-11-2004 14:30:02

So what do i do? lol what you say makes sense but leaves me more confused roll

I know the things i would like in my life, not just a complete crazy wishlist but some real things.

chris knight

14-11-2004 14:48:15

So what do i do? lol what you say makes sense but leaves me more confused roll I know the things i would like in my life, not just a complete crazy wishlist but some real things.

Smarky

Do this Take some massive action towards your intentions or goals (the real things you want to achieve) for the next 7 days.

Then come back next week and report to us what you achieved.

8)

Ron

15-11-2004 09:17:34

Smarky "I know the things i would like in my life, not just a complete crazy wishlist but some real things."

Is there any difference between a "crazy wishlist" and "some real things" you want? You are caught in the throes of ego and there would be no satisfaction if all the items were granted - that just how ego is. Here is a suggestion, and it goes along with Chris's thoughts as well

Take you list and tear it in little pieces and let it blow away in the wind - then notice as it blows away how much value it now has - NONE! Now, take ONE thought - ONE item - and focus on that thought as your intention. By focusing I don't mean that you should simply think of nothing else. I mean you take the one item, think of it as that which you want to have in your life, then let the thought go and get on with living. Allow yourself a week, as Chris mentions, and become aware during that week of what is being presented to you - be open to everything and anything. Then tell us what happened to you in that week.

Namaste - Ron

Gemmy

16-11-2004 16:45:40

"Now these might end up manifesting themselves in a totally different way from that which I am looking for, but if they were and i was focusing on being successful (as an example) I'm sure I won't complain."

Hi Smarky. I am new at all of this, but I think I know what you are saying. When I saw Dr. Dyer on PBS talking about his new book, The Power of Intention, he said that by simply saying to ourselves "I want to be happy" we will draw happiness to ourselves. When I saw this program I was in the middle of a family crisis and I was experiencing a lot of stress and negative emotions. I was dealing with issues that should have been resolved a long time ago. So, I started focusing on "I want to be Happy." I said it to myself often, I wrote it on a piece of paper and carried it in my pocket and looked at it throughout the day, I made a big sign and put it on my wall, I said it to myself as I was going to sleep and the first thing when I awoke in the morning. I was in a bad way, hurt and confused, but I figured that my bottom line is that I want to be happy. It is focusing on a general state of being, but how can bad come of it, when my intention is to be happy? Good things will come. Also, when I say to myself "I want to be Happy" I also say "I am happy." Immediately after seeing Dr. Dyer and doing my happy thing and putting into practice the other things I learned, things started getting better for me. And today, I am having the best day I've had in a long while. The family crisis has ebbed somewhat, but we're still in the woods so to speak, but personally I am handling it very well and other good things are happening for me. So, yes, I say if it's a bit confusing for you right now, focusing on 'being successful' is a great thing to do.

Smarky

19-11-2004 03:51:34

" he said that by simply saying to ourselves "I want to be happy" we will draw happiness to ourselves.

I think you have to be careful with such a statement too though, because you sending out a "I want to be happy" to the universe, the universe might respond with "Yes you do!", and just make you want to be happy more, this could even have the totally different effect of making you unhappy so that you want to be happy more, after all you requested that this is what you want to manifest.

It's certainly a good thing to keep with you, just make sure you follow it up with your "I will be happy" etc, because reminding yourself that you want tobe happy is important, but you want to bring happiness into your world, not merely just want it.

Thanks for your thoughts, I agree.

Wondering if i should adopt a "I want to be happy or successful" or should I just use "I will be happy and successful" that might work better.

chris knight

19-11-2004 05:52:32

Wondering if i should adopt a "I want to be happy or successful" or should I just use "I will be happy and successful" that might work better.

Saying that you want to be happy is as if you are not already.

Try "I am happy."

Fake it till you make it.

"I am successful"

"Why am I so successful?"

"Why am I so happy?"


D

Psyche

01-01-2005 04:03:33

I have to say I got confused earlier too, and went back to my Power of Intention book and did some rereading. Then I did an exercise to try and iron out what my TRUE needs were and are.

At first, I thought I needed money and had made all of these elaborate intentions, sub-intentions, and then more misguided intentions on top of all that. I only succeeded in confusing myself. So I made a list of just a few things that I think I need, money being one of them. Then, next to each need, I wrote out what was really driving that need in me. I found for example, that I am not really needing money, but instead I need security, safety, and a few other emotional things that money is only one of many answers to. So instead of intending to attract money into my life, I now center on security and safety and so on.

I kept narrowing down each emotion behind my needs under the headings of the needs (ie, money, love, success, etc) and found that alot of my emotions for each heading, were the same. I ended up with a list of affirmations instead of intentions. I ended up realizing that I really do have all that I need, so I just need to keep that realization alive in me.

This is what my list looked like (though I'm not posting my actual list)

Money> security, safety.....Affirmation 'I am safe'

Love> companionship, safety.....Affirmation 'I am a great friend to myself'

Success> security, safety.....Affirmation 'I am safe' (again, alot of my emotions behind what I thought I needed, turned out to be the same in many catagories).

My above examples I just made up now, but I think one can get the idea. This helped me tremendously, and I even wrote my affirmations and one intention on paper, laminated it, and carried it with me to work tonight. I have to say, Dr. Dyer is certainly right on target when he says that the words written down, and put into your pocket will attract that higher vibrating energy you want to be in line with. I had a GREAT day at work! D

powwow

31-03-2005 16:18:29

When you write...

I find I can do this for a few hours before i'm knocked down...

It sounds to me like

- You're making this into a lot more work than it needs to be; and

- You may be abdicating your own power. ("Knocked down" sounds like you're attributing this to someone/something external.)

Try sorta letting your intention rest in the back of your mind as a knowledge that you HAVE the object your intention. -- i.e. rather than mentally "poking" at it. Then relax.

How do you keep your focus on those things? Do you need to just concentrate on one thing at one time?

As I said, just file it in the back of your mind with confidence.

what happens when you need a bunch of things to go right?

The universe always agrees with you. If you say to it, "I need a bunch of things to go right," it will shout right back "You sure do!!"

The way that things go right is when you learn how to get fine with the way things are. Know that "All is well" right here and right now. Then, you'll be be easily able to access lots more "all is well" energy.

This is not something that can be easily described, or even something that you can overtly "do," but it IS something that, once it happens in your mind, you will never forget.

pow