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Getting into and staying in a better state of mind!

starchild

13-07-2004 10:04:27

Last night, when I was starting to go to bed, I realized that once again I have crashed. I don't know what to call it, but when I'm aware of it, and then get myself out of it I think "I never want to feel like that AGAIN!"

Then, at some point I realize I am again.

I call it "crashed". Into ego, fear, separation, disconnection....

Differnet things get me out of it, music, reading, thinking of a line. Something someone says (seemingly by accident). But, until that time, I feel miserable. But, I'm AWARE of this and why, so that must be one good point.

Last night I openned up my POWER OF INTENTION book, which I'd been slowly making my way through (slowly because I tend to take notes as I go along- maybe so I'll remember it better?)

And was reading in this, and playing a tape (ACIM lines) and finally around 1 AM went to sleep.

This morning I don't feel any better. I feel like I drag myself up and muddle through another day. Seeing and creating LACK for one thing.

I think I should stay in bed (or go back to bed) and try to meditate and get into a better state of mind. But, life gets in the way and once I'm up, I'm up- going through the day in an off center, disconnected way.

I'm now thinking of making the bed (one place that can be neat ) and reading in the book some more. Not trying to do anything or deal with anything- just focus on the book and what Wayne says and getting myself into a higher vibration, better state of mind.

It's like I think I have to do it ONE-TWO-THREE- SHIFT into a better state of mind! Be happy, joyful, positive, feel love (higher energy vibes)

I know I'm using how it "seems to be" as to h ow I feel, when it's the other way around. "You'll see it when you Believe it". I have that book (and REAL MAGIC) also on my bedside table. Read them years ago, and have started to again (off and on).

I know all they say, I believe all they say, I read books, and play tapes (like Abraham) and I know it's true. A few times I've even felt like I've gotten into ti! Sort of a drifting feeling (Alpha?) "in the world but not of it"

And when they happens everything does fall into place and work out (like magic)

Step one is step one?

Seek first the Kingdom. Connect with Intention!

I beleive it. And trying to DO IT gets in the way (trying doesn't put one in the flow). It's more allowing.

I tell myself everything I'd tell someone else who wrote this. Feel LOVE (higher energy)- not worry about it. do what you love, as Abraham says "never face reality unless it's what you want".

As I said, when I'm aware of feeling like this I never want to feel like it again. And I know I'm doing it to myself.

But, each day (each minute) I can start again.

Am I the only one who ever feels like this? It seems like people have good lives, and get into something (like ACIM, Abraham, Wayne Dyer) and then make their good lives even more wonderful. I'm still trying to get to "good".

~ Carrie

acurat

18-07-2004 18:23:51

Starchild,
Yes, we probably all have moments or days or months where it is difficult to FEEL the connection that we have to the universe.
I have been listening to the Power of Intention CD's.. I really like it because Wayne's voice is very soothing to me..
When I begin to feel down... for whatever reason..and there are many reasons/thoughts that bring us down to a different level....
I think to myself..or even say out loud....
I can choose JOY rather than this...
"I want to be happy"...

it often is not immediate.. but tends to connect me with the rest of the universe in some way...

I often talk to the universe...."preferably when no one else is around"...
cause my family already thinks I am way out there...cause I talk to the animals...

I say out loud... "okay you guys... I need help with this..."

You would be amazed at the responses that show up... if you are only aware of the possibilities of who/what the responses will come from"

Know that you are connected.... to so many of us.... that we walk beside you.... on your good days... and on your bad...

Ron

27-07-2004 10:50:36

Carrie - try reading Wayne's book through once without taking notes - allow the flow of his writing to catch you and take you where you are to go. So what if you don't "understand" it all - don't get a "handle" on it - so what? Then after you have read it once, then go through and make notes if you must. Be gentle with yourself. Know that the words will still be there for the next reading. Try not to meditate in bed - get up - sit in a chair and allow yourself a moment of peace and stillness. The coffee will still be there later. In the stillness, ask the question How can I serve You today? and then as your day progresses, be aware of the many, many opportunities. The shift you are thinking about is closer than the 3 steps you mentioned - it is as close as your next thought. And forget about Step One - just take the step in front of you, and the rest will be presented for your taking. Let go of your expectations and allow God to show you the life He has for you. Perhaps, you are already in the "good life" - you just didn't realize it because you have not seen past your fears. Put the other books down for now and look at your life from within you - see your life through your eyes of love instead of ego eyes. It is, but a choice that we make. And read what "acurat" posted - read it several times as a reminder.

Namaste - Ron

Eykis

27-07-2004 20:29:45

Am I the only one who ever feels like this? It seems like people have good lives, and get into something (like ACIM, Abraham, Wayne Dyer) and then make their good lives even more wonderful. I'm still trying to get to "good".

~ Carrie

Carrie,

I am a student of ACIM and Marianne Williamson in her first book on the course called "A Return to Love" said this

Our Deepest Fear
by Marianne Williamson
from A Return To Love Reflections on
the Principles of A Course in Miracles
(See note below)

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

by Marianne Williamson
from A Return To Love Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles, Harper Collins, 1992. From Chapter 7, Section 3

Anonymous

10-04-2005 09:52:21

I too am struggling with night time disconnection. Insomnia, and other dis-eases. Injury and confusion , joy at times when i claim it... It feels easy to connect when all is well and healthy, and hard to stay in spirit when my body is reflecting attitudes that I haven't brought up to the surface.(I guess real devotees would say this thought is resistance) I am where i am I am in the process, I intend to have more peace...
Sometimes I think it's enough to just say, "I want to feel good, I intend to feel good." and Meditate on Abundance. Nothing is automatic at first. I look for the good and sometimes I am not "on purpose" , I am just me, trying to sort it out.

Anonymous

10-04-2005 17:07:53

It's me again, and I found the rest of that quote in the book which I have been repeating to myself over and over for the last half of a day,
"I want to feel good, I intend to feel good
I intend to return to my Source, and I refuse to allow any other thoughts of dis-order or dis-ease in."
This is much more calming and powerful with the added lines to me.
After saying this for a few hours it dawned on me that I am saying a powerful mantra to help heal my self of my sleeep disorder(dis-order). Also I found this affirmation in another book that is helping me today,
"BREATHING IN, I CALM MY BODY.
BREATHING OUT, I SMILE.
DWELLING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT,
I KNOW THIS IS A WONDERFUL MOMENT"
As I said this sitting on a bench in my yard, a bird swooped over my head, bees and other birds landed in the bush next to me, buds were blossoming and I understood ABUNDANCE. Tonight, as I start practicing my intention to rid myself of anxiety and my dis-ease, dis-order I can conjer back up that moment, I can return to other moments in my day or do what Chris Knight I think said in a recent post, just enjoy my alive-ness despite any feelings(physical pains etc.)
It's worth a shot. I am amazed that my child fell asleep for a few hours, an overexhausted child who hasn't napped in two years or so, as if by extension of my chanting these words in intention of restoring myself to healthy sleep-)

chris knight

10-04-2005 20:56:04

"BREATHING IN, I CALM MY BODY.
BREATHING OUT, I SMILE.
DWELLING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT,
I KNOW THIS IS A WONDERFUL MOMENT"
Did you see the movie, The Incredibles?

If so, your statement reminded me of when Edna Mode was being ribbed by Mr. Incredible for making a suit that was out-dated, she replied with

"I never look back! It distracts me from the 'now'."

or

"I don’t think about the past dear, it distracts me from the now."

That was a great movie!

Blind Squirrel

11-04-2005 05:47:18

Starchild, For the past 3 years I have been working on the polarities of the energys that I have been sensitive to for all my life and I have found that there is an ebb and flow.
When I "crash" and find myself expressing the resentment, anger and fear of my ego, I lay down and breath in a way that helps to find and release physical tension. Then I use a technique you may have heard of called "Jin-Shin Jyitsu", whereby I "find my pulse" alternately in my fingers. This always makes me fall into a short but very restful nap.
I then get up and do some modified Tai Chi to further find and release tension especially in my back and mid section.

After this physical recharging, I then meditate on my "inner tensions", that is, I find the source of the mental, and spiritual stresses that have bound my ego and with an alternating breathing (the bottom and top of the breath) I release what is there.

Then when I have reached the true source of the negativity, I embrace it!
I visualize putting my arms around it and pulling it me and loving it with acceptance, love and faith that it is all part of the reality of being alive.

The "Power of Intention" has become a central part of my processes, so this is my technique for "cleaning the connection".

I don't remember where I read this about 30 years ago and it took me 25 years to grasp it, "Faith may be defined as a lack of resistance to that which is hoped for". This is the basis of "embracing".


Blessings,
Gary

Anonymous

11-04-2005 10:16:41

Hi all,

Last night I banished all negative thoughts by repeating my intentions over and over and imagined my source hugging ME and holding me to it's chest. Like a big ocean wave figure or cloud. That worked. I also listen to a cd of water sounds, like Gary's ebb and flow. When I woke up a few times during the night, I was able to calmly repeat the affirmations and get myself peacefullly back to sleep. This is huge improvement for me.

Today I feel nerves creeping in, I am repeating those statements, actually I wrote them on an index card yesterday and read and re-read them and I INTEND to memorize them too. I'm at the library now and was able to find the "Getting Into the Gap" book AND Cd which is great because I don't know yet a lot about meditation. I INTEND to learn!

Chris, I love the "Incredibles" movie! I picked my on line name because I had major reconstructive surgery to my arm recently. One of my students mailed me a valentine after my surgery.(I am a Kindergarten teacher and have been out for a few months healing). She sent me a card with Mrs. Incredible stretching her arm that said, "Valentine, have Flexible Fun!" I hung it on my mirror that I use to do my rehab exercises at home. I just know that the kid put thought into how appropiate the card was. I have been looking for a Mrs. Incredible doll to further inspire me but only have found the rest of the family.

Did you watch the Oscars? They had the Edna character "appear" to help announce the award for costume design. It's cool what they can do, so creative. I didn't "get" her at first but she is growing on me.

Blind Squirrel

11-04-2005 10:50:37

I wanted to mention, Mrs I, about "the gap". I just got the book and CD about the first of the year and this meditational practice has made a wonderful difference for me in staying on more of an even keel. I seem to have less of the 'negative times'. My energy, patience and especially my feeling of being where I need to be, doing what I need to be doing.
One place where it is particularly noticeable is when in traffic and short on time, I go into the gap and feel that where I am at that moment is the only place to be and that I will arrive at my destination exactly at the time the intelligent universe has already determined is appropriate. And that all will be exactly as it is meant to be when I get there.

As mentioned, I have far less of the situations where there is "resistance".
I think because, "in the gap" neutralizes the polarities. However, I suggest deliberately embracing that distressing state which you describe, rather than thinking about the dread or "awfulness" of the condition.
This is another way of finding the gap.

I regard it as a metaphysical description of "love your enemy as you would love yourself"

Blessings,
Gary

Anonymous

11-04-2005 14:29:09

Thank you so much Blind Squirrel/Gary for your post.)

I will intend to emrace the negative. This is a totally new concept to me. I will practice. My mind is open, I want to return to my source. (I wish I was more knowledgable.) Meditation is new to me but words are very powerful and images can be even more so, so I intend to stop blocking the thoughts of Insomnia and Illness which I am afraid to reflect on after such a successful night's sleep, and see myself hugging all those sleepless nights and fears like I would a frightened five year old.

Here's an interesting thing, about 8 weeks ago I pledged to PBS just so I could get the cd of "Power of Intention" which they said would arrive in April. Yesterday I was thinking, "If only I could have that CD come tomorrow, it would give me something different to listen to when I am intending to drift into sleep. Wouldn't that be great?"

When I typed in Wayne Dyer on the library catalogue site, only one book came up listed and available from another town's library. I have typed his name in before with limited results. Then I typed in "Meditation" and four listings down, there it was! The Gap book and CD right there, available in that very library! I then walked two feet over to the bookshelf. Little tiny treasure mixed in with all the other books. My intention was rewarded.( My wish was granted.)

In reading over other strands and posts I saw EA mentioned,Emotions Anonymous, a twelve step program I have never heard of. I have done twelve step work in the past and it was very, very helpful and carried me forward so beautifully. I am excited to have this chance for support again in my life. There is a meeting right near my home on Thursday and you better believe it, I INTEND to be there!

A therapist I was recommended to by a friend called me back today after my initial message of inquiry for her services AND you and Chris Knight both wrote to me today. I have tried for a few years to join other message boards on other sites and have been always ignored, my message skipped over and never replied to. I was wishing yesterday for someone to reach me and now TWO of you have. Thank you. I am feeling that I am attracting
an abundance of support. I am really grateful and I hope STar Child and everyone else on this strand that you are benefiting too.) D

Anonymous

12-04-2005 00:00:57

Well, I am struggling with staying in higher energy. I had fallen deeply asleep listening to "getting in the gap"- woke due to physical needs, fell asleep again listening, woke again. I have read, meditated and am intending to breathe and stay calm. My body, which I have fed and rested is beginning to shake.

This is bigger than me, that is the feeling I keep returning to. I am praying that God will guide me and help me, but is that a prayer of scarcity? Desperation? Star Child, I really do understand what you wrote about. I can't help you though until I can help heal me, that's what the book says...and I so would like to help both of us.

I don't know what in me is causing this resistance to being able to allow myself the sleep my body and mind needs, I feel like I've done everything "right" and I will keep chanting the words and hold onto that belief that I am part of the oneness. I will embrace this feeling of confusion and stay with my friends here in intention to stay connected to Source in the only way I can figure out now.

Is it truly possible that falling asleep listening to the gap rested me like a full night's sleep? Dr. Dyer suggests that happens.

I believe I will sleep again before this night is over, but I can't keep feeling like I am punished for lack of spiritual growth with lack of sleep,yet that is exactly what I feel.Still I believe and breathe and hope. I know there is an abundance of sleep to be had, an ocean of it. I haven't accesssed the bucket to fill with my intention to sleep. I intend to meditate on manifesting a mental bucket and visualing myself dipping in to the pool of restorative healing. I am embracing the draining energy Gary and wish it was gone but will send love to my insomnia and gratitude that I am not physically ill tonight and that there is a place for me in this world to express these fears and dis-comfort and not feel so awfully apologetic for my imperfections and what feels like failure, but is my deeply rooted resistance.

Anonymous

13-04-2005 12:26:24

I apologize for my extreme neediness in my last post.. I have been out of spirit and in low energy fear and then falsely overly positive sometimes to compensate. I've decided to re-enter this site under my real name to stay connected with my truer authentic self.

I also plan to listen more and speak less for awhile to find more peace and less fear.

A few questions for any of the spiritual guides out there-
What does Namaste mean?

Are you supposed to declare your intentions or keep them to yourself?

Ron

19-04-2005 20:06:02

Guest wrote "I had fallen deeply asleep listening to "getting in the gap"- woke due to physical needs, fell asleep again listening, woke again. I have read, meditated and am intending to breathe and stay calm. My body, which I have fed and rested is beginning to shake."

Response What exactly are you trying to accomplish here? Do you believe it necessary for you to remain awake while listening to tape of meditation? If you continue to fall asleep, perhaps you need it. And also, did you ever realize that while asleep, you are not the ego you believe you are otherwise? Perhaps in the sleep you will discover answers to questions you have not even asked yet. It would appear that your ego is working you over rather hard. Relax, breathe and let it take you where you are to go.

Guest wrote "This is bigger than me, that is the feeling I keep returning to. I am praying that God will guide me and help me, but is that a prayer of scarcity? Desperation?"

Response You are now at brink of discovering something about you and your Truth. Ever stop and ask yourself if you are resisting what you have been searching? Ever feel like you are being led, but you are trying hard to go your way? God is helping you and God is guiding you, but it appears that you are resisting the help and guidance big time. What is a prayer of scarcity? What do you feel you do not have, when something in you is screaming that you have All That Is. Desperation? Good term and it just might be where you have finally discovered yourself - desperate. The life you have chosen is not working - hard to admit, but you just aren't seeing what you want in your life - and now you even know that only you are responsible for this fiasco.

Guest wrote "I don't know what in me is causing this resistance to being able to allow myself the sleep my body and mind needs, I feel like I've done everything "right" and I will keep chanting the words and hold onto that belief that I am part of the oneness. I will embrace this feeling of confusion and stay with my friends here in intention to stay connected to Source in the only way I can figure out now."

Response What in you causes the resistance is what is called your ego. Ego will fight truth constantly. And it is Truth that you are so close to seeing. It is not about doing anything 'right' or 'wrong' - simple ego talk to cause you guilt. Chanting words will get you nowhere. You are just part of the Oneness - you are the Oneness. There is no confusion here. And you are eternally connected to the Source - it is your Truth. Rahter than focus so much on 'intention' simply focus on changing the thoughts you hold in your mind - change your mind. If you are holding a thought of fear - and that is any thought that does not have you experience peace - then change that thought to Love and continue to change until you experience the peace you seek.

Guest wrote "I apologize for my extreme neediness in my last post.. I have been out of spirit and in low energy fear and then falsely overly positive sometimes to compensate."

Response Never apologize when asking for help. It is what we are here for each other. I strongly recommend your reading "Power vs. Force" by Hawkins that Wayne mentions in his book. It will open you to discover what low energy is and why you are there.

Guest wrote "I also plan to listen more and speak less for awhile to find more peace and less fear."

Response If you don't ask, you won't get the answer. Listen is good, speaking less is often good also. But you have more in you that you need help sorthing through. Your questions are our lessons. We learn from each other as we help each other.

Namaste for me simply means the God in me sees the God in you.
But I will post a longer definition for you and others as well.

Namaste - Ron

Ron

19-04-2005 20:08:24

Namaste

“Namaste, I accept your humanness and mine. And I also bow to the divinity in each of us. I accept our absolute spiritual equality as beings. And I also accept that we forget who we are.”

“I acknowledge both the absolute and the relative, for both are present here. The gentle voice of God and the passionate cries of the wounded child commingle here, in this mind, in this world. Joy and sadness commingle. Strength and tears, beauty and betrayal, silence and cacophony interpenetrate.”

“It is a simple world, breathing in and breathing out, approaching the divine and moving away. And it is also complex in its near infinite variety of forms.”

“Each self is the unqualified presence, yet each must approach God in its own unique way. Within oneness, paradox abounds.”

“Here we dwell together, my brother and sister.”

“Here in the silence, each of us with our unique heartbeat, our own dance, our own call for love and truth.”

“Yet despite the division into bodies, despite the fragmentation of the mind, only one heart opens here. And that heart includes yours and mine and that of all beings who have ever lived in time and space. That heart belongs to God. His patient heart. Her infinite blessing on us all. My wish for you is a simple one. May you find that Heart in your heart. May you find your voice in that silence. May you awaken to the truth of who you are.”

“Namaste!”