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Dr. Wayne Dyer - 22 Lessons I Learned

chris knight

15-11-2004 08:13:31

Dr. Wayne Dyer - 22 Lessons I Learned

Dr. Wayne Dyer is a popular motivational speaker and author. His recent books include The Power of Intention, Ten Secrets For Success & Inner Peace, Getting in the Gap and Everyday Wisdom. I’ve been studying Dyer’s principles for the past 22 years and here are the top 22 lessons I’ve learned from him

1) You get whatever you think about most. Whatever you think about expands… and therefore, we must be careful to not think about what we do not want.

2) You can never get enough of what you don’t want. Why? Because we’re thinking about what we don’t want and we keep getting more of it. From an abundance and prosperity perspective, it is very costly (meaning you will limit your ability to produce abundance) to contemplate the conditions you do not want to produce for your life…for fear of getting more of what you don’t want.

3) Think from the end. I’m a big believer in starting with the end outcome and working backwards to reach it. Dyer takes a more mental approach to it as he encourages you to contemplate yourself surrounded by the people, events, and things that represent your version of a “perfect life.”

4) An attitude of gratitude will take you a long way. Rumi said, "Trade your knowledge for bewilderment." It is good to be in awe of all that you have attracted into your life and the more you are grateful for that – the more that will flow freely into your life.

5) Paraphrasing Dyer There are no branches of any trees that think it is wise to fight with each other. In other words, there is no value in fighting with others as we are all from the same metaphorical human tree of life. There is an old zen saying that goes something like this Whatever you are for, strengthens you and whatever you are against, weakens you.

6) It is only natural to have abundance and prosperity in your life. It is unnatural to resist the gifts you have been given in life to share with others. Therefore act confidently with a “knowing” that you already have all of the resources you need to succeed.

7) You must be independent of the opinion of others. No one can make you into what you are not. You are responsible to no one for your actions and thoughts except yourself. In addition, you are not in control of your reputation. All you can control is yourself and how you act on a day to day basis.

8) You alone choose your emotional state each day. No one can make you feel any different than you choose to feel on any day. Therefore take full responsibility for the emotional states that you choose to embrace each day.

9) You are not your body nor are you the possessions that you believe you have. You are timeless; perfect; …just the way you have forever been and will forever be... You are a spiritual being having a human experience.

10) Meditation can help you solve problems and achieve inner peace. While mental visualization of your intentions or goals is a good thing to do, think of “meditation” as finding a way to quiet your mind to reach a place of "no-thought." Quieting your mind is one of the best ways to center yourself, connect with your source and listen in the silence therein to your source.

11) Your EGO is always at odds with universal laws and principles. Best to identify when you are acting from ego vs. acting from your true authentic self. Your ego wants you to feel special and different than others but the reality is that we are one in our truth and have no differences. Focus on radical humility and respect for yourself and others. Your ego will always be attacking you until it gets your attention.

12) You can only give others what you have inside of yourself. Therefore to give love away to others, you must cultivate love for yourself FIRST. Dyer uses the metaphor of squeezing an orange – asking you what comes out when you squeeze it. Most people answer, “orange juice” comes out. Why? Because that is what is inside. When humans are squeezed, what comes out of them is what they harbor inside of themselves. Harbor love, acceptance, joy, confidence, peace and harmony towards yourself so that you can radiate it towards others. You can only extend to another that which you are in truth.

13) Your relationship with others does not really exist. You only have your perception of your relationship with others to act on. Therefore you must focus on making sure you perceive your relationship with others on the terms that you hope for the future of the relationship to exist. You must want harmony within yourself and then with the other person. You always have within you what you wish to see or give another.

14) Our intentions create our reality. We each create our own personal realities by what we focus on and intend to happen for our experiences. Therefore we have an enormous responsibility to choose our intentions carefully.

15) Be attached to nothing but rather "be" what you want for your life. Attachment can cloud your ability to attract what you want. When you let go and surrender to your perfect self, you will attract what you desire.

16) There is never any scarcity of opportunity, but rather there is only scarcity of resolve to seize the opportunities that knock on our door every day. Scarcity does not exist unless we choose to embrace it…therefore, it is better to never embrace scarcity. Embrace the possibility for abundance.

17) When the teacher is ready, the students will appear. When the student is ready, the teachers will appear. We often can not learn the lessons we are here to learn if we are not receptive to learn. Be open and ready rather than resistant to the possibility to change but rather expand and become more open.

18) No one was ever hurt by practicing random acts of kindness. The law of reciprocity always rewards kindness and even more-so when you are kind without any expectation of needing a return. There is no difference in the words "giving" and "receiving."

19) The best way to maximize book sales is to release related products that can be purchased. For example, a book could be followed up with an audio tape, audio CD, DVD, flip calendar, playing card decks and more. Each of these creates additional revenue streams that help to maximize the ROI from each published works. (My marketing brain wanted to insert this lesson in here ;-)

20) Judgment One of our purposes in life is to find a way to free ourselves of our need to judge others in a negative light. As we see others, we also see ourselves. This is the work of our ego and judging others prevents us from seeing the good in them. There is no value in judging others poorly.

21) Dyer says, “It’s Never Crowded Along the Extra Mile.” That means that we must always give more than we expect to receive. In doing so, we join the small percentage of achievers that consistently go above and beyond the call of duty to serve others. The rewards are often disproportionate for those who go the extra mile vs. those who only do the minimum they need to get by. We give without expectations.

22) Trust in yourself and in doing so, you trust in the very wisdom that created you. It is impossible to become a no-limit person if you focus on limitations…therefore only focus on what you want to attract for your life. You already are complete, whole and perfect. Trust in the perfection of your life.

About The Author

Chris Knight is the humble moderator of the fan discussion board for Dr. Wayne Dyer Wayne-Dyer.InspiresYOU.com -- He invites you to drop by, register for free, and join the discussion. It's by fans and for fans of Dr. Wayne Dyer, and as such, is not connected directly with Dr. Wayne Dyer.

More about who Dr. Wayne Dyer is Affectionately called the "father of motivation" by his fans, is one of the most widely known and respected people in the field of self-empowerment. He became a well-known author with his bestselling book, Your Erroneous Zones, and has gone on to write many other self-help classics, including Meditations for Manifesting, Staying on the Path, Your Sacred Self, Everyday Wisdom, and You'll See It When You Believe It.



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Yamagi

15-11-2004 09:44:36

Congratulations....a great synopsis of Waynes work.

I'll forward it through my networks.

I recall on his tpae with Deepak Chopra his story about how the tennis ball slowed down as he went to hit it and that taught me a little more about time, physics and the illusion of separation.

Thankyou for sharing this peice and for putting so much time into it.
It will be valuableto use for others to enjoy the blessings.

Carol Omer

wizdumb

15-11-2004 12:06:08

Thank you for sharing. Very well done.

2 quotes, from Dr. Wayne Dyer, I carry with me everday. And these sayings, have proven to be very beneficial in the letting go, of the EGO.

" Be open to everything, and attached to nothing."

" Be in the world, not of it."

Two which you have touched on.

Abraco Amigo,

Ed

Nett

15-11-2004 12:41:26

What a wonderful job and well put together. Thank you for sharing it with us. I too love his quote " Be open to everything, and attached to nothing"

Des

15-11-2004 20:05:49

Well done, Christopher. For me it is an excellent summary, with lots of "reminders" built in. A great resource.

The three last points have been particularly helpful for me in the "turnaround stakes"

20) Judgment One of our purposes in life is to find a way to free ourselves of our need to judge others in a negative light. etc

21) Dyer says, “It’s Never Crowded Along the Extra Mile.” That means that we must always give more than we expect to receive. etc

22) Trust in yourself and in doing so, you trust in the very wisdom that created you. etc

Another I have found very helpful - and by no means easy to integrate - is

You must give up the right to be right. This for me has been both immensely liberating, but I've had to learn some emotional "free falling" to do it. And I keep uncovering the devious little hiding places of this particular aspect of Ego. For example, one of the things I still have to deal with is (for me - not prescribing here, folks) the necessity to give up the inclination ("right") to indignation - even (especially?) righteous indignation. I have been able to "do" righteous indignation very "well" but realise it was usually (always?) ego-driven not compassion-driven. And it ain't easy to give up. I have mentioned this principle - you must give up the right to be right - a few times to other people and have found little enthusiasm for it. I did this once in a quite large forum of people ostensibly dedicated to personal development and was "countermanded" by the "guru" at the front of the room who obviously did not like at all the idea of giving up the right to be right.

I find it particularly challenging to give up the right to be right when I'm aware that I'm actually in the wrong!

Des Walsh

Inga Miller

16-11-2004 07:31:17

Thanks for the summation......I had to smile at the marketing thoughts....one thing I am fighting with is the "saying yes" to family and friends. Seems like I am becoming resentful and exhausted with the "yes" bit, and losing myself. .....any ideas....anyone?

Gemmy

16-11-2004 13:19:02

I really enjoyed the article and think it would be very helpful as a daily reading to keep oneself on track, so to speak.

Anonymous

16-11-2004 15:22:48

lol

Thanks for the summary of Dr. Dyer's works.
One of my favorite phrases from him is about judging others.
What we don't like about others, is what we don't like about ourselves.

Des

16-11-2004 16:25:43

Inga wrote
>one thing I am fighting with is the "saying yes" to family and friends

There is a paradox here. My first thought is that Dr Dyer would probably not make a habit of saying "yes" where that set up a conflict with his broader frame of values. A simple example for me is that if a friend or family member insisted I have another drink or another serving of food and I didn't want to, I would not be saying yes. And sometimes I might have to be very definite about this.

I have a bit of trouble talking as some do in terms of "setting boundaries" because I know that can come from or generate a fear mentality. But I do find that if I am "setting boundaries" I can make my position clear if my framework ("where I'm coming from") is about principles and values, not about being precious or ego-driven. And, as we are all pilgrims and learning as we go, sometimes we will not establish our position as smoothly as a totally evolved sage might do - but we shouldn't beat ourselves up about that. I do think the phrase "what part of no don't you understand?" is brilliant - but it has a different impact depending on whether it is spoken with an amused smile or an anxious, hostile glare.

In this context, I love Dr Dyer's comments (if I've got it right) about marching for peace rather than against war.

Des

Anonymous

18-11-2004 16:00:34

Chris, thanks for a beautiful summary of Wayne Dyer's teachings. Each one has touched me in one way or another. A couple of quotes that I first heard him share when at a live talk he gave in San Jose, CA in 2002 stand out so clearly to me.

"Don't die with the music still in you."

The second is not really a quote but his story of being a small boy riding the trolley with his brothers and trying to reach the strap. Just the other day I was listening to the Power of Intention cd and re-heard this story for at least the 10th time and it reminded me to slow down and just reach up and imagine myself floating up to grab on to the trolley strap and let the trolley take me where I needed to go. When I find myself getting sidetracked by the drama of life this always reminds me to allow my life to flow.

Anonymous

18-11-2004 16:04:36

Chris, thanks for a beautiful summary of Wayne Dyer's teachings. Each one has touched me in one way or another. A couple of quotes that I first heard him share when at a live talk he gave in San Jose, CA in 2002 stand out so clearly to me.

"Don't die with the music still in you."

The second is not really a quote but his story of being a small boy riding the trolley with his brothers and trying to reach the strap. Just the other day I was listening to the Power of Intention cd and re-heard this story for at least the 10th time and it reminded me to slow down and just reach up and imagine myself floating up to grab on to the trolley strap and let the trolley take me where I needed to go. When I find myself getting sidetracked by the drama of life this always reminds me to allow my life to flow.
Melodie

drdankoontz

18-11-2004 21:19:20

Thank you Chris and congratulations. In the vast scope of your synopsis, you have imparted major points in the core essence of Wayne Dyer's work.

#3 has always helped my communications with patients in seeing what they will need to do once we achieve wellness in spinal stability, successful
weight management, diabetic control and other health challenges that require active compliant participation in maintaining wellness. This opens the eyes of many folks who never actually viewed their health challenges
from this perspective and gives them a visualization target. A very valuable tool.

Additionally, Wayne's 'Manifest Your Destiny' imparts tools from his guru, Baba Sri Siva utilizing THOUGHT MANIFESTATION combined with ANCIENT SOUND TECHNOLOGY bridging the gap between the mental and physical realities. This ancient wisdom utilized by active participants will change their lives proportionately to their practice achieving all of their dreams.

Many members of this discussion board may not be familiar with your world class successful work leading your field of Internet Ezine technology, related works, dedicated Internet publishing which has been clearly magnified and blessed through regular implementation of Wayne Dyer's principles of living.

Thank you for taking time from your busy schedule to share your 22 summary points of Wayne Dyer's work.
Doc

Anonymous

18-11-2004 23:28:52

arrow wink

Thank you Chris for your wonderful reflections and this great web site. I am challenged at the moment and needed some inspiration. This message board along with your comments helped tonight! Thanks everyone for the reminders.

I am forever greatful for Wayne's teachings. I've been a student for a long, long time! I had the wonderful opportunity to hang out with him and Depok, when they were in Western New York together. Check out my web site for pictures! www.SinatraSolutions.com

Much of his work is incorporated in my Coaching business (because it is truely a part of who I am!)

Until the next time...
Anna Marie Sinatra

Anonymous

20-11-2004 08:20:53

D Dear Chris,

Thank you so very very much for the summary.

It encapsulates such wonderful reminders about what we should be doing...meditation that gets lost in the rush to jump onto the time wheel of each new day........and all that goes with it.

THANK YOU,


Ingride lewis

Anonymous

03-12-2004 09:12:21

The thing that made a great difference in my life was when I heard Wayne offer an analogy about an orange. What come's out when it is squeezed is what is inside.

chris knight

03-12-2004 09:24:11

The thing that made a great difference in my life was when I heard Wayne offer an analogy about an orange. What come's out when it is squeezed is what is inside.

Excellent!

That is one of my favorites as well.

In fact, I just used that this morning with my 6 year old son.

We were talking about LOVE and I asked him who is it more important To love yourself or to love other people. He knew it was important to love himself first but didn't know why... So I explained to him that it's impossible to love other people until we can truly love ourselves first. He didn't get it or understand what I was saying, so we'll just keep talking about this until he fully comprehends this important concept.

idea I think most children instinctively know how to LOVE before they know WHY to love.

Anonymous

09-12-2004 11:42:45

RE "Thanks for the summation......I had to smile at the marketing thoughts....one thing I am fighting with is the "saying yes" to family and friends. Seems like I am becoming resentful and exhausted with the "yes" bit, and losing myself. .....any ideas....anyone?"

Hello Inga,

May I suggest, that for each "request" you receive from a family member, that you simply ask youself, "Is this something I want to do?" If you will gain pleasure, or you will derive from it the pleasure that you are doing a nice thing for someone else, then you will feel good when you are done. If the pain of doing the activity will out-way the end result, then there is most likely no value in doing it.

I believe that giving yourself to others does not mean sacrificing yourself in the process. Remember - you know what is best for you and the world you are trying to create for yourself, and you should feel good about your decisions regardless of others' judgements.

Take care,
Nat

jellyfarm

14-01-2006 10:57:29

5) Paraphrasing Dyer There are no branches of any trees that think it is wise to fight with each other. In other words, there is no value in fighting with others as we are all from the same metaphorical human tree of life. There is an old zen saying that goes something like this Whatever you are for, strengthens you and whatever you are against, weakens you.


This has got to be the wisest and most beautiful things I've read all year! (and it hasn't been all that long now has it? wink )


Thank you Chris for sharing that! I'm going to print it and stick it at my workstation! NICE!!!