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Lucia

15-08-2004 20:33:34

Some people that I trusted have been spreading lies about me so that they can take over a project that I've been working on for 2 years. This project was a dream of mine that I was working hard to make come true. I beleive they were motivated by jealousy. I tried to turn the other cheek, and keep posivitve and share the project with them. they continued to be duplicious. They have succeeded in ruining my reputation, so that now I have to begin somewhere else all over again.
How can I clear my name to the people they have badmouthed me to, without sounding like a jerk myself? (that is stooping to their tactics?)
Thanks! Lucia

Anonymous

16-08-2004 17:58:54

Hi lucia,

It sounds like youve been trying to navigate through some difficult professional relationships at work. Sorry to hear that. What happened with the project you were working on? Can you no longer work on it?
How did the coworkers you mentioned tarnish your reputiation?

Ron

30-08-2004 20:05:19

Wayne might tell you that the other people did nothing to you that you did allow them to do. He might tell you that somehow you brought this situation to you. He might even say that as you see others, so you see yourself. He might just have you stop where you are and have a chat with you - just between you and you - preferably in front of a mirror so you can see you. We unconsciously at times, allow people to walk all over us. Why? perhaps we don't like ourselves as we are at the moment - or in the job - or doing the task we must do. It is never too late to start over with you - yourself. Change your thoughts about you so that you may see others in that same light as well. Wayne might say this to you, but in as much as he isn't here right now, I hope this will do.

Namaste - Ron

Diana309

04-09-2004 00:08:27

From your post -How can I clear my name to the people they have badmouthed me to, without sounding like a jerk myself?

When I read think, I think the things I have learnt from Wayne Dyer, Mark Victor Hansen and Eckhart Tolle is that to clear your name isn't the objective. To have freedom within yourself to not be affected by the negativity around you is the goal.

To follow the spiritual principles in life does not mean bad things don't happen to you because the nature of life is to experience The All, by experiencing all that there is. How we respond to the situation and circumstances we have subconsciously or even consciously attracted to ourselves, is the secret of success.

When I have been in situations such as you describe, I continue doing my work. In a work situation, you can always talk to your boss about your concerns. After all, isn't it your boss who will have the final say as to who continues the project. Of course it makes me angry for a while that people are not being supportive and are displaying destructive behaviour but through experience I know that letting go and following the path that has been presented leads me to better things.

Don't try to hold onto something - that is like building a dam. Youwant to be the river - let things flow and see where it takes you.

Love and Light to you.

Ron

04-09-2004 16:38:39

Great thoughts Diana. Wayne might tell you to look into "A Course in Miracles" of which he is a student, quoting often from it. In this spiritual tool, you would learn that no one can harm you; that what one thinks of you is of no concern to you - what is forever important is how you think of yourself. Do you love yourself as God loves you - unconditionally. Not like "I love myself but..." Instead "I love myself." No strings attached to love - simply let it flow through you as you have already mentioned.

Namaste - Ron

Eykis

14-09-2004 20:54:29

Great thoughts Diana. Wayne might tell you to look into "A Course in Miracles" of which he is a student, quoting often from it. In this spiritual tool, you would learn that no one can harm you; that what one thinks of you is of no concern to you - what is forever important is how you think of yourself. Do you love yourself as God loves you - unconditionally. Not like "I love myself but..." Instead "I love myself." No strings attached to love - simply let it flow through you as you have already mentioned.

Namaste - Ron

ACIM also says that this world, and all of the "unfairness" is an illusion brought on by our ego thoughts that we are all separate. For something to be "unfair" requires an attacker and a victim, yet if we are all one at the core, if we attack, we attack ourselves.

Ron

15-09-2004 15:50:19

"ACIM also says that this world, and all of the "unfairness" is an illusion brought on by our ego thoughts that we are all separate. For something to be "unfair" requires an attacker and a victim, yet if we are all one at the core, if we attack, we attack ourselves."

For something to appear "unfair", we must also be able to see it as "fair" - such is the world of duality we live in. And there is no "attacker" or "victim" - we are it. No one can do anything to us unless we allow it - simply means no one can do anything to us period - we only think they can and so we experience our own thoughts.

Namaste - Ron

Diana309

17-09-2004 02:50:15

I have often seen ACIM advertised on the net and I have been to the sight. With your words, I imagine that I will eventually delve into it further.

Thankyou for your inspirations.

sc

26-09-2004 22:40:16

Lucia,
What you are describing is not a uncommon situation when you begin your journey in the spiritual realm. This may be a reflection of your subconscious dislike of people who may seem negative once you start practicing the positive and affectionate mindset. Sometimes attracting this kind of negative energy has a karma cleansing effect as well. The way to work through it, is to continue focusing on the greater good and sometimes this requires that you remove yourself from the negative situation. The universe will create situations to help you clean out some of the negative energies surrounding you. I don't think you need to try to clear your name (although I don't know the gravity). if it is something you can let go, I would consider that. When I have seen people go through similar experiences, it has invariably turned out that they have been giving out subconscious judgemental evaluations such as " this behaviour is beneath me.. " Going through what you are going through will help you work through this as well. Overall this will turn out to be a very positive experience for you!! Remember, the behaviour you have just seen these folks demonstrate is also the root cause of a lot of illness.

Best of luck and good wishes