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Christmas and loneliness...

majelmarly

22-12-2004 18:26:47

Dear friends on Wayne Dyer site, and Dear Humble Moderator,

I didn't want to write this word LONELINESS. In fact, I never even tell nor use or write it. But each Christmas Holidays, I feel sad and find myself compelled to recognize my loneliness. The rest of the year it's all right! I can also say I do spend a very good Christmas' Time since some years, because now I can buy myself all the littles "nothings" I like and I do appreciate the good food in the good restaurants.

But yesterday, coming out of the dining room of a nice hotel and coming into the nice and "chic" beauty salon I go to have my hair do... and to have appreciation, attention and good care... I couldn't but think that everyone who is nice with me is someone I paid for the taxi driver, the hairdresser, the waiter, the salesperson, the pharmacist... even the beggar (who after all won't be alone at Christmas Night), etc...

So I am able to stay in the Christmas Spirit of Generosity which is Peace of Mind and of the Heart -and I take good care of doing so- but it is a hard time for all the people living their everyday life in anxiety or depression or hypersensitivity... all the little problems of half of the North America population having to take Prozac, Paxil, Luvox, etc. to stay neutral and not so disturbing with their emotions, lots of talking and making fuss...

I will take my Luvox not to think so much, I have a provision of Ativan sublingual not to make panic crises and the physician had even add something to sleep now...!!!
And now it's even better because I'm no more so anxious that this time will pass..
HAVE A NICE CHRISTMAS EVERYONE !!!


Marlène (Montréal -Canada)

Ron

06-01-2005 16:18:56

Loneliness is one of the words ego uses to get us to feel less than complete, whole, less than loved, less than wanted, etc.

Did you ever notice that by taking the "l's" out - you have a new word, one that you can associate with - oneness (yes, forget the "i")? When ego throws you anything, look again at it, and see within it what is hiding there for you.

Namaste - Ron

chris knight

06-01-2005 16:33:24

Did you ever notice that by taking the "l's" out - you have a new word, one that you can associate with - oneness (yes, forget the "i")? When ego throws you anything, look again at it, and see within it what is hiding there for you.

Excellent observation Ron!

I had never noticed that...

It's been a long time since I've been lonely... In fact, I think it was 1988 when I was in college for the first time that I ever experienced loneliness... but no more! Just don't have time to be lonely.

8)

majelmarly

06-01-2005 17:54:04

What do you mean, Dear Humble Moderator, by "never have the time to be lonely".

Is it that you are too much occupied to even get the time to be lonely? In this case, it would be another form of denying your loneliness.
Or is it in the sense of Ron's explanation; not loneliness, but oneness?

Ron,
Thank you very much; I never thought of it the way you explain it. And as I said before, it was the period of Festivities of Christmas making me feeling so. The rest of the time, I know that I sort of choose being alone (most of the time, ...)

chris knight

07-01-2005 11:30:57

What do you mean, Dear Humble Moderator, by "never have the time to be lonely".

Is it that you are too much occupied to even get the time to be lonely? In this case, it would be another form of denying your loneliness.
Or is it in the sense of Ron's explanation; not loneliness, but oneness?


I'm saying that I find no value in the feeling of being "lonely"...


Definitions of lonely on the Web
alone(p) lacking companions or companionship; "he was alone when we met him"; "she is alone much of the time"; "the lone skier on the mountain"; "a lonely fisherman stood on a tuft of gravel"; "a lonely soul"; "a solitary traveler"

marked by dejection from being alone; "felt sad and lonely"; "the loneliest night of the week"; "lonesome when her husband is away"; "spent a lonesome hour in the bar"

lonely(a) separated from or unfrequented by others; remote or secluded; "a lonely crossroads"; "a solitary retreat"; "a trail leading to an unfrequented lake"

lonely(a) enjoyed or performed alone; "a lonely existence"; "his lonely room"; "took a solitary walk"; "enjoyed her solitary dinner"; "solitary pursuits such as reading"

Sourcehttp://www.cogsci.princeton.edu/cgi-bin/webwn?stage=1&word=lonely

And I never lack companionship even if I need to get it from myself...
...You know, being your own best friend when times are sad or friends are sparse.

There is so much to do in this life, experience, be, try out and test, love...etc.. that stopping for a moment to be lonely seems like a waste of time. Don't confuse this with not being able to slow down or smell the roses... as I can do that just fine...when I can find the time. HA HA, just kidding! 8)

Ron

08-01-2005 18:21:24

Regardless of how hard we try to separate ourselves from others - by what ever means we use - we can never truly say we are alone. Within each dwells the Truth of who we are. The Spirit, the spark, the God within us is forever there - it is just us that too often fail to look. And look at the word "alone" - is it not saying "all one"? Think about it the next time you want to say you are all alone.

Namaste - Ron

majelmarly

09-01-2005 19:42:41

Thank you Ron!

gentlegiant

12-01-2005 19:04:06

I didn't want to write this word LONELINESS. In fact, I never even tell nor use or write it. But each Christmas Holidays, I feel sad and find myself compelled to recognize my loneliness. The rest of the year it's all right! Marlène (Montréal -Canada)
I like what Ron has to say about loneliness being oneness and alone being all one. I also am compelled to say that who you are is always perfect in this moment. You get to recognize your loneliness as a perfect creation created by a perfect you. If you deny or resist your loneliness, as you say you do the rest for the year, you will continue creating loneliness. What you resist persists. Take loneliness out and observe it. Observe how you feel. Accept that you are lonely. What you look at disappears. Solutions appear. Have you not been faced with a problem, only to look at it closely and see that it was never a problem? Once you see the perfection in your loneliness, don't give it a second thought. Create a new thought. How would you imagine your Christmas' to be? Is that also how you want Life to be? Hold that thought, imagining it as so until your Inner Being generates the emotion of feeling good. Then, when ever the feeling of sadness or loneliness comes your way, immediately think about your new imagining. Dwell on it until you feel good. AS WD says " I want to feel good!"

To find the oneness Ron discusses, go within. You can only find it within. Once you find it, you will never be lonely again. You may discover your Oneness at once. It may take time. Keep at it. "If you don't go within, you go without."

Namaste,