Detachment, visualization, manifesting specific relationship

Hello all

Terrific forum. I've really benefited from Dr. Dyer's book, and I enjoy this discussion.

I hope you all can help me with something I'll try to be brief I am starting a business. I live in Los Angeles, and it's an entertainment company aimed at gay individuals. I have no problem being enthusiastic and visualizing the abundance and service that I want to manifest where my company is concerned.

However There is a specific gay TV actor that I would like to meet and see what kind of personal relationship we can have. It is not unrealistic that I could meet this individual through my entertainment business. In fact, from a purely business standpoint, it's quite logical that I would reach out to him, and he might quite reasonably be interested in what I intend to accomplish through my company. I have definitely meditated on having this person in my life.

But I find this person (whom I don't yet know) very attractive, and find myself imagining a personal relationship. I'm struggling with the "law of attraction-law of detachment" dichotomy here. I don't want to be obsessed with this person, yet I feel that I'm drawn to him for a reason, and I'd like to somehow see if our paths can cross, and maybe a romance could develop. How do I detach from the outcome in this case?

I hope this makes sense, and thank you in advance for your help.

Cecil

Hi Cecil,

Just visualize the relationship as you desire it to be...from the end. Then walk into each moment expecting it to be that way. At the same time, allow whatever is, to be...that is, be joyful always, no matter the outcome. You are the creator of your life as you choose it to be...joyfully allow others to create their lives as they choose them to be.

You wrote "But I find this person (whom I don't yet know) very attractive, and find myself imagining a personal relationship. I'm struggling with the "law of attraction-law of detachment" dichotomy here. I don't want to be obsessed with this person, yet I feel that I'm drawn to him for a reason, and I'd like to somehow see if our paths can cross, and maybe a romance could develop. How do I detach from the outcome in this case?"

First of all, I wish you sucess in your new venture. It would appear that you have your intentions layed out before you, however, old ego has raised his ugly little head and created a diversion for you. You are drawn to this person, if for no other reason, than he is one of your teachers, and you one of his. Obsession is of ego, intention is of Spirit. Be patient as you walk your path and note when your path leads you to this teacher. When you (student) are ready, he (teacher) will appear. You have placed the thought of your business out there, now let go of it and allow it to unfold before you. Take each day as each step, savoring the goodness at all times. And allow a relationship to develop as it is presented to you, not something the ego desires.

Namaste - Ron

Thank you Gentlegiant and Ron for the thoughtful responses. I appreciate your wisdom.

To follow up on Ron's comment about ego -- something occurred to me today (while listening to the Power of Intention CD in the car!) If I'm looking to this man to be some kind of "trophy" to validate my own success or inflated self-image, then that's directly contradicting the seven forces of intention....and not something the universe can support.

It was an interesting bit of insight!! Thanks again for helping me get there.

Cecil