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HOW DO YOU CONTEMPLATE HAVING FOUND YOUR SOULMATE????

lostsoul78

23-08-2004 21:03:22

DR. DYER says to see things from the end and to contemplate yourself yada yada yada....

well then, how do you see yourself from the end in having found your soulmate???? what do you do, wear a wedding ring in public even though you are not really married....

I'd really like to have the feedback of y'all on this subject of see yourself from the end and contemplate....when it comes to finding a special someone...

this is partly why i am a lostsoul78

Anonymous

27-08-2004 18:25:27

You are not alone in feeling like a "lost soul". I, too, feel lost---very lost.
And I think alot of people feel this way. I wonder sometimes if it's easy for Dr. Dyer (who I admire very much and who has been a great help to me by just listening to him) ---I wonder if it's easy for him to lecture about what he lectures about because he is not a lost soul.....he seems to have a good marriage and he has children ( these things I do not have---never been married and no children). I think it's easier to speak of love and peace, and inner tranquility when you have someone to share your life with---as Dr. Dyer does. Can he ever know loneliness?

chris knight

28-08-2004 07:38:05

...he seems to have a good marriage and he has children ( these things I do not have---never been married and no children). I think it's easier to speak of love and peace, and inner tranquility when you have someone to share your life with---as Dr. Dyer does. Can he ever know loneliness?
Dr. Dyer may be sharing his life with his 8 children, but he won't be sharing his life any longer with his wife who left him a few years ago for another man.

For details, read
http://wayne-dyer.inspiresyou.com/viewtopic.php?t=122
(only accessible for registered members)

He can know loneliness if he wants to just like any other human...but the question you should ask yourself Which emotion do you want to connect with? It is always your choice.

Snuffles

23-09-2004 11:35:16

Dear lostsoul,

I assure you that I was once like you...it was so hard for me to contemplate meeting someone. I am 21 years old and am now in my first serious relationship. I always wondered when I would meet someone special and watched and tried not to be jealous as my friends had long term relationships. I finally broke down and cried on my best friend's doorstep the night before I had to go back to my all-women's college. After her consoling me, I decided to get on with my life and stop worrying about meeting someone. I just made the decision to go do my best in school and emerse myself in in activities that I was interested in. And you what? I didn't even have to go out looking for my current boyfirend...he found me. My roommate was online on a music website and a guy IMed her promoting his local band (she has a radio show) and we ended up going bowling that night with him and his bestfriend. Now, I am dating the musician and my roomate is dating his bestfriend. We haven't even known eachother that long and we're already in love. Sometimes things just work out in strange ways. You just have to have faith and be greatful for what you already have. Be pacient and I promise that great things will happen for you!

Laus

14-10-2004 07:20:17

divorce doesn't work. Do you have another? Thanks.

Laus

14-10-2004 07:38:26

I think what would be most effective for you is create Pictures of yourself sharing the things you enjoy, both mentally and physically, with someone who really enjoys it. Create and nourish those thoughts. And then let it go .. meaning trust in the power of the universe that it will unfold for you. "Contemplate and surround yourself with these conditions" and you will attract what it is you desire.

jillyc

14-10-2004 07:54:31

Laus's reply is very good and I second his words and I would like to add to them...

I have found many soul mates over the years to share my life with some of them girls and some of them guys, I don't believe that we have just one or that all are intimate relationships. I have met people that I bonded with immediately, shared a friendship that was mutually beneficial and in some cases I am still in touch with them and in others I think of them with love but no longer communicate on a regular basis.

When you are searching for soul mates as friends or for an intimate relationship it is important to be clear who/what you are looking for. I have been with my sweetheart for almost 5 years now and we met online. We both had been searching online for about a year and enjoyed the search as well as the final result. When I made up the ad/profile that he responded to I was very specific as to the characteristics of the person that I was looking for, once it is clear in your head, it is much easier to find.

And it is a search... wearing a wedding ring and expecting the right 'one' to walk up and say hello is like expecting to win the lottery without buying a ticket. The search is part of the journey and even meeting a variety of people is part of the journey.

Coming to forums like this, chatting with other like minded people online or in your local community is vital. Because of my success and the fun that I had meeting people online I now have a "conscious" personals website and the link is in my signature. It is a wonderful way to make new friends all around the world and just maybe one of those people will share a portion of your life with you but again, the key is, love yourself first and enjoy the journey.

Namaste. Jil

celia

17-04-2005 19:57:06

After two divorces and much heartache I went through a time in my life where I was in 12 step and counseling and was exploring being alone. I had been afraid to be alone, had never been really because I have many siblings. It was easier(sort of) to settle for the wrong partners than for my own company. But ultimately it was harder.
I made a "dream map" at that time. I cut out words and pictures and sorted them into several areas, career, personal, dreams of future motherhood, and so on. By making this map of the future I intended to have, I was manifesting and thinking from the end. I also said to God, "My choices have been terrible. I know that out of the millions of men on this planet, there is at least one who thinks like me, who will compliment my life. Please send him and I will do my best to recognize him when he arrives." Then I got busy on working on my self and my health and well being. When I met my husband I actually was reluctant to date him as I had grown fond of not having a partner, having freedom to wear mismatched clothes whenever I pleased without comments from anyone and picking up and going wherever I wanted to without having to figure anyone else in. That was huge healing for a girl who was so afraid to be alone.)

steventhomason

06-11-2005 10:17:57

If you have ever watched a movie and seen a couple that really moved you to say, "that is what I want for my life partner", think about how they acted towards each other? (Fun, light hearted, teasing), What did they do together that made you think they have the ideal relationship?. As you begin to think of what it is that really moved you to think, "that is what I want for my soul mate", you have already begun the necessary meditation to create the spiritual void that infinite intelligence must fill. Remember your envision yourself rolling around on the living room floor together or having sincere heartfet talks or whatever motivates you. Envision it to the point that it causes emotion in you now. Do it every day!
All of creation will then be working on your behalf to manifest your envisionings. Therefore, be concise. Don't envision things you don't really want. Start now! Be commited to this meditation. As you meditate you will notice that your picture of this person gets clearer. This should be a pleasurable experience so no reason to put it off. As the picture gets clearer the day draws closer to you realizing you have infact met your soulmate!
Happy meditations

jellyfarm

28-11-2005 03:00:23

Dear lostsoul,

I assure you that I was once like you...it was so hard for me to contemplate meeting someone. I am 21 years old and am now in my first serious relationship. I always wondered when I would meet someone special and watched and tried not to be jealous as my friends had long term relationships. I finally broke down and cried on my best friend's doorstep the night before I had to go back to my all-women's college. After her consoling me, I decided to get on with my life and stop worrying about meeting someone. I just made the decision to go do my best in school and emerse myself in in activities that I was interested in. And you what? I didn't even have to go out looking for my current boyfirend...he found me. My roommate was online on a music website and a guy IMed her promoting his local band (she has a radio show) and we ended up going bowling that night with him and his bestfriend. Now, I am dating the musician and my roomate is dating his bestfriend. We haven't even known eachother that long and we're already in love. Sometimes things just work out in strange ways. You just have to have faith and be greatful for what you already have. Be pacient and I promise that great things will happen for you!

Hi there!

I'm really happy for you and all and your story seems like a lot of people out there but in my experience, despite 'not looking'....nothing's come. Hmmmm....I wonder why. But to be honest, I'm perfectly contented being 32 and single. If it comes, it comes, if it doesn't I'm still happy being Who I Am. I don't lack anything.....Thanks for sharing though! D

mungbean11

27-11-2006 04:17:38

From personal experience I found the more I looked the less I saw.

It wasn't until I started to love myself truely, deeply appreciating the gift of me and what I had to offer not just to one soul but to the world that I realised I was already loved faults and all.

The love that I wished to share with another, that I felt was going well up inside till I eventually exploded was a gift that I could send out into the ether without expectations of it's return and know without a doubt that I was loved because I WAS LOVE.

Feel conected to all the love that is being sent out into the universe daily.
Imagine the jet streams that travel clockwise around our earth, visualise yourself being caught up in one, it is full of love and seeking love, you a being carried away by love, you are breathless in love, tears of joy drip to your cheeks. YOU ARE LOVE...
this is what finding your soulmate feels like )

Get busy being happy, being you, loving you, even the parts of you that you consider less than, love them more, they need it.

Don't give anything negative your energy, this will only empower it.
and remember.......YOU DON'T NEED A REASON TO BE HAPPY )

mungbean11

27-11-2006 04:24:07

Dance when you think your alone, imagine your dancing with your soulmate.
Speak to them, say goodnight as you lay in your bed, day dream of things you would like to do together once you are together in the physical...most of all...believe that you are connected in spirit and nothing can ever change that, draw him or her to you, visualise an umbilical connection that is glowing with the life of your love... etc,
Hope these things help )