coming from germany, seek and you shall find

Hi,

I'm new to this board, found it a couple days ago and liked it from the first minute on. I'm a big fan of Wayne Dyer and got all of his audio cassettes, try to listen to them every spare minute I got. He's not my only single coach, I also got the stuff from Anthony Robbins, David D., Paul McKenna, Napoleon Hill and basically most of the important other ones. I started this Journey like half an year ago, when coming back from the United States, after I stayed there for half an year (in new mexico, as an exchange student).
I then had low self-esteem, anxiety, partly depression, and got addicted to some drugs. This was in the US when I started taking some narcotics and other stuff. I didn't get too adicted, but I wasted alot of my lifetime in those days.
Today I'm glad I could learn from this experience, I also used anti-depressants for a few months then. After kicking them of I got highly depressed, but I saw the potential within me, that the drugs showed to me.
I wanted to become "myself" without having to use drugs.
So then I found some Self-Help books, and they changed my life alot.
I still haven't worked them all trough, but I already made such a great change in my personality, it's amazing. I feel better than ever before.
But sometimes I still get some mood changes, I try to stabalize that and am still working on my higher self.
I'm still 18 at this time, so propably most of you guys have more life experience than I do. I appreciate this board and all you guys on here, hope we gonna have some interesting discussions and I am willing to share all of my ideas that might be helpful for others.
Greetings,

Rhygin

I applaud you for your travels thus far in life. At such a young age, you have much wisdom. If I were to offer you any advice I would simply say that the books you are reading are there for you as tools on your path - not necessarily the only way to walk your path. As you read them, and you have a variety of ideas flowing at you, simply take what you feel is right for you at the moment and leave the rest for another time. In addition to Dr. Dyer, I suggest you try Paul Ferrini, Marianne Williamson (A Return to Love), Eckhart Tolle, and Dr. David Hawkins, just to mention a few.

I am pleased that you joined this board, and I look forward to your comments as they will be lessons for us all to pay attention to.

Namaste - Ron

hey,

thanks for your book suggestions, I'm gonna have a look at some of those. Well you are right, I have to be the one acting on my way to my goals, many people think that reading the books and listening to the tapes is going to organize their lives. There had been some greater difficulties on my way that I couldn't move away on my own so I went to an proffesional NLP trainer who could help me deal with some of my early childhood believs. That already helped alot, now I'm havin' another appointment tommorow. I'm very looking forward to this one.
If any of you has serious trouble getting over anything, or changing some of your behaviour, I recommend you take the step and go visit an (NLP)Expert. In only 1 hour he changed me more than reading many many books could do. A combination from both of them is propably the best to go for you then.
I wish you luck on your path, thanks alot for your uplifting words,

Rhygin

You wrote 'I went to an proffesional NLP trainer who could help me deal with some of my early childhood believs.' and you also wrote 'In only 1 hour he changed me more than reading many many books could do.'

Please look over what you wrote and see if it is what you believe? The 'help' and the 'change' that is occurring is from you because you are allowing it. No one can change you - no one can truly help you - they can hold your hand perhaps - offer suggestions - but you are the responsible party and you take the credit for the changes you have seen in you. I emphasize this because all too often we give credit to others - we place them on a pedestal higher than we see ourselves - and we forget who we are as well. In Dyer's books, he teaches us that we are all equal - not one of us is better than another - and no one can heal us but us. Your trainer is on your path to be used by you in assisting you to change your beleifs. Don Miguel Ruiz, another author I recommend, calls our old beliefs "lies" which carries a whole different meaning than simply beliefs. Please let us all know how you are progressing. What you learn is valuable for all of us.

Namaste - Ron

The 'help' and the 'change' that is occurring is from you because you are allowing it. No one can change you - no one can truly help you - they can hold your hand perhaps - offer suggestions - but you are the responsible party and you take the credit for the changes you have seen in you.

Ron,

The "Allowing" topic is often a confusing one because it seems so easy to just "allow" and have a belief that is void of resistence to accept the abundance that is natural to flow into our life... but none of that is going to happen until we get into massive action.

Can a person really be in a state of allowing and a state of action at the same time?

Perhaps the benefit of the "allowing" part of the laws of attraction are to remind us to get rid of thoughts of 'doubt' from our mental process.

Chris wrote "Can a person really be in a state of allowing and a state of action at the same time?"

In a 'state of action' a cause must first be present, as in we believe as ego that we cause all of our actions. What happens in "allowing'? What does 'allowing' mean to you? Does it mean simply to have something be presented as it is - without you judging it? Is it the same as acceptance? Do we have the choice to merely accept what is before us and not judge it for what we believe it is? Can ego - that which we believe we are most of the time - allow anything or simply accept anything - without judging?

To be non-judgmental, one has to be in the 'spirit' mode of the mind and not the 'ego' mode. One simply has to drop past thoughts and future expectations, and just be in the moment as it is presented.

So, in answer to your question - no, one cannot be in both states at the same time - only love and fear exist and where one is, the other is not.

Namaste - Ron