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Being a victim


07-12-2004 19:15:05

Chapter 1 of Pulling Your Own Strings is about being a "victim" - is this your role? Do you see yourself here and can you see how you got here?

"“You need never be a victim again…But in order to function as a non-victim, you must take a hard look at yourself, and learn to recognize the numerous situations in which your strings are being pulled by others.”

“Victims are first of all people who run their live according to the dictates of others. They find themselves doing things they really would rather not do, or being manipulated into activities loaded with unnecessary personal sacrifice that breed hidden resentment. To be victimized…means to be governed and checked by forces outside yourself…YOU CAN RARELY BE VICTIMIZED UNLESS YOU ALLOW IT TO HAPPEN…people victimize themselves in numerous ways, throughout the everyday business of running their lives.”

“Victims almost always operate from weakness. They let themselves be dominated, pushed around, because they often feel they are not smart enough or strong enough to be in charge of their lives. So they hand their own strings over to someone “smarter” or “stronger.”

Namaste - Ron


07-12-2004 21:48:27

When we are a victim, it is because we are emotionally focused on what others are telling us, on criminal acts we read about or see on the news, perhaps on scenes from television dramas or horror movies, and then expecting it to happen to us in the way we have imagined it. The perpetrator is focusing on the same things but from the point of view of acting out what they are focusing on. All victims co-create with their perpetrators to manifest what happens to them.

Focus on things that bring you joy. If your thoughts or actions are making you feel used, afraid, paranoid, weak, victimized, etc., don't give them a second thought. Think of something, anything, that makes you feel good, as WD says. All of us have joyful, happy, passionate moments that we can bring into focus, when something grabs our attention and makes us feel bad. Turn away from whatever it is with a happy thought.

We are paving our path with our thoughts. If we are faced with a situation in which we are a victim, it is because we have paved that path with our prior thoughts. When faced with such a situation, it is too late to "think it away". We must act...say no, run, scream, whatever is appropriate. Then change your way of thinking that brought that to your path. Think thoughts of doing only what makes you feel good, of being safe and secure, of being in a place of utter well Being. Then your path is paved with those thoughts. When a thought of being taken advantage of, fear, or weakness sneaks in, change the thought immediately to a happy, joyous thought. Diligently pave your path with good intentions.

I realize this is not quite what Ron started this topic about...but I think it adds to what he is saying.